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Can there be any more hideous experience than talking about your own book in conversation?

I should know by now, not to get drawn in by that most delicious and tempting of all questions.

Yet, my brother, Al, asked me, ‘how’s your book going?’ and I succumbed.


I told my brother, ‘The Sasori Empire’ was based on mythology, with alternate versions of Maori legends and Japanese mythology.

To me, the world I’ve created through the Chronicles of Aden Weaver series is perfectly logical.

Yet, it’s only when I try to describe the plot to other people that I seem to come unstuck.

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I heard myself telling my brother, Al, in avid detail, as you do when you’re a writer, all about ‘The Sasori Empire.’ I said, it’s set on the planet Chiron (an actual recently discovered planet in our solar system). The setting though is an alter-earth. As other authors have done, I swapped out the first letters of countries to make them recognizable and yet also, ‘somewhere else.’

Al was blinking at me owlishly.

Yet, we writers, when asked about our babies, cannot stop talking even when our listener’s eyes have glazed over.

I told Al that book two mostly moves between the Lost Island, set off-shore from the west coast of an alternate New Zealand, and the Land of Fire and Ice which is set in an alternate imagining of Japan.

Al may have started snoring at this point.

About mythology, the famous writer, Joseph Campbell said, ‘The standard path of the mythological adventure of the hero is a magnification of the formula represented in the rites of passage: separation—initiation—return: which might be named the nuclear unit of the monomyth.’

I explained to my brother, that in these books I explore the traditional heroic arc, through the medium of fantasy and insect shape-shifters. Only in neither book two, nor its companion, book two: part two, do the hero or his heroic band get to “return.”

That was it. My brother wasn’t even looking in my direction anymore. I knew we’d officially reached his limit. At that point, I petered out.

I read somewhere recently, if we feel the urge to share what our book’s about with others, we should lock the urge up and throw away the key.


Sharing only seems to water the impact down. Yes, I know we have to be able to précis the book to compose the synopsis, blurb, and elevator pitch, all the way down to the logline. But that’s different, that’s the business side. Even writing a speech about your book is acceptable. But talking about the story with people in regular old conversation, I find, goes nowhere fast. It never works.

Why is that?

The fact is, no one, not even one’s own sibling, wants to hear an author “selling their own book.” Especially at length!

How do I stop myself from “sharing” again? Have you ever had a hideous experience of talking about your own book?


Talk to you later.

Keep on Creating!

Yvette K. Carol


Lord, make my words sweet and reasonable; some day I may have to eat them.~ Paddy Ashdown

‘The word ‘Legend’ comes from Latin legenda, ‘things to be read’. Originally, legends were the hand-written biographies of saints and martyrs, which were read daily, at MATINS, and after dinner at monastic refectories. In these accounts, such a love for exaggeration, the fantastic and wonderful predominated that the word, legend, came to signify a traditional story, a fable, or myth.’ ~ Brewers Dictionary of Phrase & Fable


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  1. I haven’t had the hideous experience of talking about my book (no book, I’m afraid), but talking to my brother can be pretty hideous anyway if he’s trying to do something else at the time, like watch a sports game or read a newspaper. 🙂

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  2. Deborah Osborne says:

    Hi Yvette, thanks for stopping by my blog and for the shout out. Much appreciated. I have exactly the same problem. I read somewhere that you should have your log line prepared and feed that to the unsuspecting well wisher that asks what your book is about.

    ‘How is your book going?’ is slightly harder to resist. My mum and brother have to love me anyway though, so I try not to feel so guilty about waffling to them.

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    • yvettecarol says:

      LOL. Your comment made me laugh. Brilliant. Thanks for the feedback, Deborah. I think your blog is excellent, by the way. 🙂
      I have to work on writing and compiling the newsletter today actually, so I’ll be putting your shout out in there. I was wondering if I could save the image of you from your avatar to go with it? I find a photo is always more engaging when it goes with a call to action 🙂


  3. I’m not laughing at you, I’m laughing with you. I’ve seen that glazed look. LOL. My husband actually does snore! Then he cries out when my toe connects to his shin. I don’t visit you enough, Yvette, and I’m sorry. Life is moving past me at an alarming rate. Happy Spring! Thanks for visiting my blog. Your support means a lot.

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  4. Fantastic post, crit partner. I love it. And I am not a salesperson. I feel strange asking folks to buy my book. Like I’m pushing it on them. But I will get better? We will get better? Love your brother. Love you. XOXOXOXO

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  5. P.S. you reminded me to post my IWSG post. Thanks, buddy.

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  6. I don’t get the sense that anyone in my family or any of my friends are the least bit interested in my writing, so, I’ve learned not to even mention it around them. I’ve mulled over why this is and can think of three possible reasons why people who should care about what the people they care about, care about, don’t care. 1.They’re really not into the subject matter or 2.They’re a bit envious. 3. They’re illiterate and only want to watch Reality TV.
    Now, I think your books sound fascinating and am certain I could talk to you about them without ever having my eyes glaze over.

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    • yvettecarol says:

      You may have a point there, Clare. Maybe it’s a matter of choosing your audience? We all know our families have the lowest tolerance levels for us because they’ve been around us the longest. Thanks for the compliment, too! 🙂

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  7. lynnkelleyauthor says:

    I don’t bother talking about my books to family members anymore. 🙂 Going to writers critique satisfies that part of me!

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