When did I know I was going to become a grandmother? Nine months ago, my eldest son sent me a simple text. “Guess who’s going to be a grandma?” it was like time stood still. In reality, it was twenty-eight years ago, when my blond haired boy of eight used to draw pictures of his ‘house, wife and three children,’ that he first told me I would one day be a grandmother.

When I was little, I used to draw fairies, animals and so on. I don’t recall ever thinking ahead about my future, or the family I might have one day. When my eldest was little, he drew his own home and family and even his dog, it’s something he’s wanted ever since he was a young boy.

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Maybe it was because I was a teen mom, and his father and I were separated by the time he was one and a half years old? Maybe he wanted to give his kids the family environment he’d wanted for himself?

Maybe it was just his personality.

As a teenager, my first born gained a reputation for being good with kids. At the parties for the youngest in the family, he could always be relied upon to be outside, looking after the gaggle of kids on the trampoline, or wherever they were. He has that open fun sort of personality that little kids adore.

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In my mind, I have always seen him as a father-to-be, no doubt. So, it really surprised me when a few years ago, he said he wasn’t sure if he would ever have kids.

Meeting the right partner changed things, however. He and his girlfriend got engaged last year, and, I was delighted to hear they were expecting a baby.

I wasn’t so sure how I felt about being called “Grandma,” though. Frankly, it made me feel old. Grandmother? Me? I could’ve sworn I was still a young person with places to go and things to do. No, I thought, I don’t like the thought of being called “Grandma,” I’ll have to use Nana, or Nan, or Gan-gan, or Gigi, or Meemaw.

The nine months sped by.

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Then, on the 17th June, my first granddaughter, Sienna Bella, was born  at 2.51 in the afternoon, weighing in at a healthy 3. 30 kg.

We went to meet her the following day. As soon as I laid eyes on her my heart melted. I saw my son holding his daughter in his arms and the happiness was indescribable. You hear people talk about how wonderful it is to become a grandparent, and yet, you never really know what it is until you experience something for yourself.

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I can say all my anxiety about getting old, about time passing quickly, and so on and so forth, just faded away in the face of the magnificence of this new life. This daughter, this granddaughter, who is now the spear of this family. This girl will carry the blood and genes of our family forward into the future. I felt myself and my silly worries about weight and wrinkles fade into insignificance before this newborn, the first born of my first born. It was a moment of sheer bliss, only equalled by the birth of my own children.

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To be clear, I had expected it to be lovely, of course. Babies are powerful. Most people love to be around babies. They remind us of the time before words and thoughts and worries, when we, too, were fresh from the netherworld. To be around a newborn and look at their perfection is like being refreshed.

However, meeting my first grandchild was better than lovely. It was a moment I’ll never forget. I felt instantly connected to her. Instantly moved by a desire to guide and protect.

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It is a pure love I feel as the paternal grandmother and the nectar is extraordinarily sweet. I have this feeling inside like “I can’t wait to see her again!”

I went to Toastmasters a few days after her birth. My friends at the meeting greeted me with, “Congratulations, Grandma!”

I said, “Yes!” and struck a crazy pose!

I tell you, I embrace the word, “Grandma.” In fact, I’m over the moon about it.

Welcome Sienna Bella to the world and to our family. Another phase in life begins.

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Talk to you later.

Keep on Creating!

Yvette K. Carol

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It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. E.e. Cummings

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Comments
  1. davidprosser says:

    A big welcome to Sienna Bella, congratulations to the proud parents and Massive Congratulations to the New Grandma.
    xxx Massive Hugs Yvette xxx

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Thank you, David!! No one knows better than you the power of grandparenthood. Your grand babies have given you so much solace and comfort and joy. Thank you for the conversation! 🙂
      Big hugs (((( 🙂 )))) xx

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  2. Congratulations Mamo (Gaelic for Grandma).

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Thanks so much, Pat! My daughter-in-law to be is from a French family. Her mother is “Mame” which is French for Grandma (excuse me if the spelling is wrong, I’m writing it phonetically). They’re very similar. 🙂

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  3. lynnkelleyauthor says:

    Huge congratulations, Yvette! Sienna Bella is beautiful and so is her name. Ou’re right about how you never really know what it’s like until you experience it for yourself. I’m excited for you and all the amazing times you are going to have with your precious granddaughter and how watching your son interact as a father forms a special bond between you. Am so thrilled for you.

    I’m visiting my daughter and family in North Carolina. These two grand darlings are the ones I was care giver for five years. It boggles my mind how fast they’re growing up. Grasshopper turns 7 in August. Ninja Doll just turned 5. I told them I will kiss and hug them each a million times before I go back home. It will be hard to say goodbye, but in the meantime, we’re making special memories.

    Welcome to the wonderful world of grandparent-hood! I’m looking forward to hearing more about your adventures!

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Thanks, Lynnie!! I have watched on and read about your adventures as a grandparent for years and I’ve witnessed your joy. I remember the excitement when Grasshopper was born! Is that possible? Have we already known each other seven years? Wow.
      I think the name they’ve chosen for our baby is so sweet. I don’t know if my son is aware that Bella is my nickname? I have to ask. My sister has called me Bella ever since I was a young adult so I got a bit of a kick when I saw that. Then, I thought, he might not know. I will find out!
      I have to say, I’ve been surprised by grandparent-hood already. I remember with my gran, clearly feeling the power of the love she had for me. It was a palpable force. Now, I get to know what that feels from the other side. It’s an instantaneous connection.
      My son sent me a photo last night of Sienna asleep on his chest. I’m saving that for the next Newsletter. 🙂 Expect many photos and more posts to come! 🙂

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  4. Tina Frisco says:

    Congratulations, Yvette! She’s adorable…a little beauty ❤️

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