My status update on Facebook of a week or so ago asked whether sleep deprivation was ever used as a form of torture. It was an earnest question. Because having experienced insomnia brought on by menopause in the last four years; I have come to realize how important sleep is to my well being.


Getting enough hours of shuteye each night is essential to my health, and to my mental health and emotional wellness.

I’ve noticed myself getting annoyed with people out in public, I have little mini road rages in my car, and I don’t give way with a smile as often. I’ve done stupid things like putting the phone in the fridge, and the milk in the freezer, and I’ve forgotten appointments.

This has made me aware that for me to have a sunny attitude and happy interchanges with people, I require a certain topping up of the tank. When there are only a few hours sleep under the belt, the tank’s at half full.

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They say most adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep a night.

Women need twenty minutes more than men, and once they’re awake generally find it harder to fall back to sleep than men.

In the last four years, I’ve been finding it more difficult to fall asleep again if I’m disturbed in the night. I’m still raising my two younger boys, and sometimes, they wake up, needing me for some reason. The end result: I’m sometimes getting through my days on three to four hours sleep.


Arianna Huffington of the Huffington Post  says women aren’t getting enough sleep and once famously called sleep ‘a feminist issue.’ I see her point. I do find everything harder to do on less sleep, let alone attaining my “full potential.”

Instead of relishing the day, I’m battling the day. I can’t get ahead or enjoy the moment.

My grandmother, rest her soul, only ever slept three hours a night. When I asked her why, she said she’d done so her whole adult life. She didn’t need more than that. Me, I need a good nine hours a night to be at my best.

They say that sleeping a whole seven hours at a stretch is a relatively modern innovation, and that in the past, people usually slept two or three hours, got up for a spell and then went back to bed. This was one of the suggestions I heard, to get up and do something relaxing in a low light, like yoga or meditation, before returning to bed.


It’s about training the mind and memory to attach wakefulness to other areas of the house, and to associate restfulness with the bedroom.

The last four years have been a bit of a struggle, as I’ve been barely functioning on auto-pilot each day, after sleeping a few hours.

I had to look into different things I could do to assist me on the path back to the land of the sandman.

The first thing I did was go to see a medical herbalist. The herbal tinctures she prescribed were instantly effective, and wonderfully natural and non-toxic yet, the price, exorbitant. After a few successful months, I realized the budget couldn’t sustain the price of the tinctures, so I quit. I had to do what I could at home to help myself get the Z’s.

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It’s all still a matter of trial and error, but at least here’s somewhere to start.

*Top Tips for Better Sleep*

*Take regular exercise each day, aerobic and weight training can cut down the number of times you wake in the night

*Carbs for dinner give the body a peak in the levels of insulin which helps you to nod off

*Try to establish a routine bedtime, as the body can set a pattern for unwinding at that time


*Switch off all sources of light in the room, the darker the better for production of adequate levels of melatonin, the hormone that helps us stay asleep

* Play slow soft music; it’s been found that music with a rhythmic rate of around 60 bpm syncs with the resting heart rate

* Meditation or relaxation/breathing exercises prior to bedtime help release the stress of the day and detach from the dramas

I’ve learned the hard way to make sleep a priority. How about you?

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Talk to you later.

Keep Creating!

Yvette K. Carol


The one who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. Those who walk alone are likely to find themselves in places no one has ever been before. ~ Albert Einstein



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  1. davidprosser says:

    Hi Yvette, not much sleep is not much fun is it. I don’t know what you took before but Valerian Root is often helpful for that. It’s in tablet form and not very expensive at about $10 for a month. This one is going to be about $25 a month but I don’t know if you can get the brand but I’m sure you’ll get one with the right ingredients.
    I hope you find something that suits you.
    xxx Massive Hugs xxx

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Hi, David,
      I do appreciate so much that you always take the time to reply and stop by. A true gentleman. 🙂

      You’ve done a wonderful thing and reminded me about Valerian Root. I’ve had a good experience with that in the past. When my youngest son, the heart kid, was in hospital having his surgery, I spent a week in the hospital with him. I had been so worried beforehand that I wouldn’t sleep a wink the entire time that I had sought advice and been recommended to take Valerian. I found a tincture of it at the health food store, and what I did was add a few drops to every bottle of water I drank for our whole stay in hospital. And, it worked like a dream. I slept well every night. But, in the years since, I had forgotten about it. You’ve prompted my memory. Thank you! I’ll take a look around and see if I can pick some up this week 🙂
      ((((hugs))))) xoxoxx

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  2. JEN Garrett says:

    I get up an hour before my hubby, so he’s always accusing me of “going to bed early”, but I’m trying to listen to my body – it tells me when it’s bedtime!

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Yes, that’s the way to go. It’s very important for adequate melatonin levels, to get up as early as you can and start to see daylight, light sources from the start of the day, to have the right levels to sleep well by evening. It’s so vital we do listen to ourselves. 🙂


  3. lynnkelleyauthor says:

    I love the photos of your sleeping babies. Sooooooo precious! I’m like you, Yvette, needing nine hours of sleep. Can’t manage much during the day when I haven’t had enough sleep. That’s amazing that your grandmother was able to get by on three hours of sleep. Wow!

    All those things you’ve listed to help us fall asleep are the things I’ve heard about, too. I like to listen to my Kindle, either an audio book or the text-to-speech feature. It seems to help me fall asleep faster than anything else. I turn the Kindle over so the lighted screen is covered. Then the next night I got back to the place in the book that I remember hearing before I fell asleep and I start from that point.

    We sure do need our sleep. It’s a shame those tinctures are so expensive. Hope you get lots of quality sleep from now on, Yvette!

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    • yvettecarol says:

      One thing I’m also learning about sleep, is that it helps us have stamina and endurance. I notice a greatly reduced capacity at the moment to maintain my usual levels of tolerance. So many of my friends experience lack of sleep so at least we’re all in good company! 🙂 xx


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