It’s time for another group posting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Time to release our fears to the world – or offer encouragement to those who are feeling neurotic. If you’d like to join us, click on the tab above and sign up. We post the first Wednesday of every month. I encourage everyone to visit at least a dozen new blogs and leave a comment. Your words might be the encouragement someone needs.

Every month, the organisers announce a question that members can answer in their IWSG Day post. Remember, the question is optional!!!


June Question: Did you ever say “I quit”? If so, what happened to make you come back to writing?

I’d say the closest I’ve ever come to quitting happened in the last week.

I began working with Createspace to produce Book Two in the Chronicles of Aden Weaver series in April. As ‘The Sasori Empire’ had been through three rounds of critique, professional editing and had subsequently been vetted by a professional proof-reader, I knew the copy was clean and ready to format. Yet even so, a few minor errors were found in the process of designing the interior of the book. That’s par-for-the-course.

However, I wasn’t prepared for how long each editing change would take to effect. I had to organize, postpone and reorganize the book launch two times. I came close to the point of quitting because the long delays meant a huge amount of extra work for me. When I realized last weekend, that the books were not going to be here in time for the second attempt at a launch, I felt gutted. I didn’t know where I’d get the energy from to start the engine a third time.

PSA re Book Two

This called a great many things into question in my mind. It was just one of those moments in a writer’s life where you question, is it all worth it? All the sacrifice, all the money and time poured in so liberally when time for everything else is so squeezed and for a short while, I wondered if writing was worth the blood of my life.

I don’t usually ever question it. I’ve always had a facility for story ever since I was a small child, and I enjoy writing, however, I wondered for the first time, maybe my path is not writing books? Maybe I was purely put here to be a mother to three children.

I questioned, is fiction where I should be aiming my efforts? I felt, it’s taking me a long time to master this craft! Maybe I’ll never get there. And so the doubts went on.

Then I saw Kristen Lamb, who is such a warrior writer, was going through publishing woes of her own, and she was taking them in stride.

I read her blog post, Reality vs. Expectations—Remaining Calm When it ALL Goes Pear-Shaped ( and was inspired. Kristen said, “If we never fail, we never learn. Show me a person who never fails and I’ll show you someone who’s never done anything interesting.”


Why does trying to publish our books cause so much anguish?

“Publishing involves…humans,” said Kristen. “Humans who screw up, make mistakes, etc. Even better? Now that we’re in the digital age? Humans can screw up much FASTER and INSTANTLY.”

Yes. This is the thing, these days, every step you take and every stumble is public property.

“If we allow ourselves to be at the mercy of circumstances? We’re going to be miserable and we’ll never finish the blog or the book. We’ll give up, tap out and take every carb in the house down with us,” she wrote. “One thing we must learn to be successful in this profession (or any other) is to forbid outside circumstances to own, control or derail us.”

I took heart. I began to feel the love of writing fiction return. I felt that I was not alone (!) and it didn’t hurt that Kristen finished the post with this kick ass Teddy Roosevelt quote, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming.”


It’s good to be back! Have you ever quit something and returned stronger?


Talk to you later.

Keep on Creating!

Yvette K. Carol


“Loss is hard and we must grieve but then we must write a new story, with better ending.”  © 2017 LEAH WHITEHORSE  



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  1. Thanks for the shout-out and I always smile when I see your name.

    Often if I ever even get the idea about not being a writer that is an instant red flag I need a NAP. I am overtired and fixated and weary.

    There are so many reasons most writers don’t make it and very little of it has to do with the writing. This is a mental battle first and foremost. Mastering emotion and will and getting up over and over and over and over.

    It’s why we need each other. It’s too easy to give in if we are isolated. We also need others to be honest and tell us we are not a freak because sh&* blows up. That is happens to them TOO!

    We need to laugh, then laugh some more. And then we need to read the Teddy quote over and over until the desire to give up passes.

    I first saw that quote when I was in college. I’d won a full scholarship to go to medical school from the Air Force. Covered my BS then any med school. Two and a half years into my contract, I slipped on ice and fell and fractured my back. No contract. No scholarship. No medical school.

    I walked on a cane for over a year and took a job in a Successories store in the mall. They sold motivational posters and books and cards, etc. And I read every single book in that place at least a dozen times.

    Life knocks us down, but that’s just life. The getting up? All on us. One poem I memorized became a sort of…mantra? I’d get hammered and about give up then think, “How did I die?” Pasted here in case you want to use it on a blog. It’s a keeper :D.

    How Did You Die?
    Edmund Vance Cooke

    Did you tackle that trouble that came your way
    With a resolute heart and cheerful?
    Or hide your face from the light of day
    With a craven soul and fearful?
    Oh, a trouble’s a ton, or a trouble’s an ounce,
    Or a trouble is what you make it,
    And it isn’t the fact that you’re hurt that counts,
    But only how did you take it?
    You are beaten to earth? Well, well, what’s that?
    Come up with a smiling face.
    It’s nothing against you to fall down flat,
    But to lie there — that’s disgrace.
    The harder you’re thrown, why the higher you bounce;
    Be proud of your blackened eye!
    It isn’t the fact that you’re licked that counts,
    It’s how did you fight — and why?
    And though you be done to the death, what then?
    If you battled the best you could,
    If you played your part in the world of men,
    Why, the Critic will call it good.
    Death comes with a crawl, or comes with a pounce,
    And whether he’s slow or spry,
    It isn’t the fact that you’re dead that counts,
    But only how did you die?

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Kristen, spoken like the true warrior you are. Wow, your story is inspirational.

      The tears are sliding down my face reading this. Thank you for taking the time to step into my neck of the woods. I never expected that. I love the solidarity you express and demonstrate. It’s so heartening because this is so isolating being a writer, and I love the whole sense of community you bring. That sense of kicking against the status quo for something better. Keep rockin’ woman!

      Thank you for sharing that poem. It is beyond the beyond. A keeper for sure.
      The line that guts me to the core:
      It isn’t the fact that you’re licked that counts,
      It’s how did you fight – and why?

      So good! Thank you.


  2. emaginette says:

    Wow a comment from the woman herself. That’s impressive.

    I tell my son, if you learned something it was worth doing. I still think that is true. Sorry for your troubles. Be strong. 🙂

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Isn’t that something? It’s made my day. 🙂 Reminds me of a saying my grandmother was fond of, ‘Share a smile, they’re free to give away.’ Words are the same, we can give so much through encouragement with words.
      I love the line you say to your son. I’ll use that sometime, too! It’s the truth. Every stumbling block teaches us something new. I have learned so much through this.
      Next, I get to learn how to do an online book launch, because I have no idea!

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  3. Olga Godim says:

    You know that old adage: if it doesn’t kill you it makes you stronger. I think this case applies. You’ll be much stronger and better equipped to handle such problems in the future. We all face problems once in a while. It’s how we deal with them that counts.
    As this post is so heavy on quotes, I read a quote by Frank Herbert recently that seems custom-made for you: “Show me a completely smooth operation and I’ll show you someone who is covering mistakes. Real boats rock.”

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Hi Olga, how wonderful to see you here!
      Yes, I am a big fan of quotes, I keep a huge file of them on hand. I would be very happy to copy down that quote by Frank Herbert too as I think it’s fantastic. Thank you! 🙂


  4. miladyronel says:

    How awful! I’m glad though that you’ve found Kristen’s words so inspiring – I love reading her blog. Don’t give up (even if gremlins are trying to add more difficulty): the world needs your novel 🙂

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    • yvettecarol says:

      Thanks, Ronel! Yes, I’m with you, I love reading Kristen’s blog. Her warrior/Viking tone coupled with an ability to laugh at herself are a killer combo. Plus, I’ve been following Kristen since I first stepped into the world of social media and she’s provided a much-needed compass in these stormy waters. I appreciate your encouragement. And I encourage you to do the same, keep making your myths. It’s the style of story-making I like!

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  5. Wow. I had no idea production delays could impact the process so greatly. I’m sorry you’ve gone through some difficulties, but just so you know, you’re inspiring me to push through my own difficulties. 🙂

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    • yvettecarol says:

      You’ve made my day, Raimey! Inspiration is so vital especially in turbulent times. My proof-reader said she was going to share my recent story with her son, he’s a teen going through a lot of stress at the moment. And Kristen spoke to this too in her blog: the thing of how our mistakes and mishaps can be the breakthrough for other people, therefore they’re useful and informative when shared. I wish you the greatest of luck. Keep pushing. Don’t ever give up! 🙂


  6. The poem is lovely and so poignant. I understand some of what you’ve been through. I’m struggling right now with quitting. I hope the sense of giving up goes away, because it has nothing to do with failure.

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    • yvettecarol says:

      I’ve been there a number of times, Joylene, so if this is the first time you’ve considered quitting, don’t worry, it’ll come round again. I came so close this time! Because let’s face it, which is the harder road to travel? Take heart, you’re not alone. We’re all in this together!
      A writer friend, Ellen Warach Leventhal, noted she’d done an author visit to an Elementary School in the States. I had to laugh. Ellen’s favorite response from a fourth grader: “You work hard, you don’t know if you’ll ever get paid for it, and you aren’t rich? Man, not sure I want to do that.” 😀


  7. […] Kristen said in her response to my ‘Quit or Stay’ post, ‘Life knocks us down, but that’s just life. The getting up? All on […]


  8. […] wrote a blog past during that time, ‘Quit or Stay’ post, and Kristen Lamb responded, ‘Life knocks us down, but that’s just life. The getting up? […]


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